“We humans are social beings. We come into the world as the results of others’ actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others’ activities. For this reason it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationship with others.” – The Dalai Lama
We are created for relationship by relationship.
I was sitting in a Counseling Skills 1 class this week at CCU. I am assisting the professor this semester and this skills class is the first class in our graduate program. I sat in the back of the class and listened to the professor share with such excitement that these students were about to embark on a journey together. In relationship with one another they were going to learn the skills to be “life givers” in the counseling room one day. It was truly inspiring. He gave a brief explanation of how we get life by drawing the below flow chart on the white board:
Particles ---> Atoms---> Molecules---> Life
The professor went on to briefly explain that particles become atoms and so on through a process called entanglement. And because this is a counseling skills class and not a science class he shared that the basic process of entanglement is individual particles coming together in relationship to form an atom. And as you see above in the flow chart, atoms then become molecules and molecules become life. All through relationship!
Now we can chalk this all up to coincidence if we want or we can be reminded that God is the author of life and the author of relationships. People come to counseling for a number of reasons: depression, anxiety, loneliness, trauma, etc. But no matter what they are in counseling for we often end up discussing relationships. How is their anxiety effecting their relationships? How can we utilize someone’s existing support system to help a person that is trying to overcome their depression? Or how can we help a person find a support system that is struggling with loneliness? So much of what we do is wrapped up in relationships. We need healthy relationships with one another for our personal well-being and whether we like it or not it is innate to want to be in relationship with one another and if this is the case then we might as well take the time to make those relationships good. Where are you using your most energy? Is it to get ahead at work? Are you using it to worry about your future? Or are you exerting energy into something that doesn’t matter? Why not take the time to redirect your energy into something that truly matters and will always be a part of your life, your relationships?
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